But as with many things it can be more complicated than that. In addition to this response it is probably fair to say that we are mostly uncomfortable with pain, our own and that of others. Our attempt to make the pain go away through words or hugs or lollipops may well be an expression of this discomfort.
One of the interesting things to me, when I started studying Buddhism, is that one expression of attachment is grasping after things that we want, but a less obvious expression of it, is the pushing away of what we don't want. This was surprising to me at first. I can see how hard I work sometimes to resist what I deem unpleasant (and sometimes it is more subtle). And pain falls into this category I think, labelled unpleasant, let's get rid of that pesky pain.
Do we ever welcome pain? Not so much. We even have a name for people who seek out pain and we don't regard this as a flattering label. In Buddhism pain is considered one of the 8 worldly conditions. There is a little rhyme that I've heard somewhere to help remember this list of worldly conditions. It goes, "pleasure & pain, loss and gain, praise & blame, fame & shame, they're all the same." Isn't that interesting, all the same? Would you think that at first glance? Or even on the 20th look? And perhaps that's just part of our human reflex of pulling away from the flame (or the shame)? A little fire warms us, a bigger flame burns us. A little cheesecake tastes yummy, a lot makes us feel sick.
And so while we don't want to go around creating our own pain, it is an inevitable human experience. And so our work is to be with it when it comes to us, as best we know how. As a worldly condition it just is. We don't have to add value or drama or engage in a struggle with it. Easier said than done. And we do the best we can in being with our own pain and that of others. In our imperfect human way, we may not know what to say or do, but we muddle through somehow. If we live a life of practice we can look at it, perhaps approach it like some small wary animal, trying to see what it is. Is it dangerous, will it bite us, should we run from it? And gradually as we can relax and just be with what is. We may find it is different than we imagined, that it has something to offer and teach us, that it softens us and makes us more compassionate and tender human beings, that it connects us each to the other like one of those join the dot pictures we did as kids, showing us the bigger picture.
And if we can be quiet enough and mindful enough we may hear that still, small voice within and be guided to do what is right in that particular moment.